Hello! I am Charlotte and welcome to Our Lovely Mess!
I am a stay at home mom of 2 boys. Tristan and Kai, 3 and 5 respectively. We have 2 dogs, 3 cats and things can sometimes be a bit chaotic.
More often then not, the house is a mess and the boys are running wild, so I definitely would not call myself an expert on parenting, life or relationships. But I have been through some stuff, learned a few lessons and I am a fellow mom, so I get it.
A little bit about me
I have always been a fish out of water kind of person. I never quite fit in and that also applies to motherhood. If you ever feel like that, I want you to know you have a place here. You never have to pretend things are fine when they are not, you don’t have to put on the pretense of “the perfect mom” or feel hesitant to speak your mind for fear of being judged. This shit’s hard, we need all the support we can get.
I’m not the perfect mom, and that’s ok
Motherhood does not come naturally to me. It has been a struggle from day one. I am not the type of person who likes to be needed, and that is parenting in a nutshell – constant need! I know I am not the only mom out there that doesn’t quite fit the motherhood mold, and I want you to know it’s ok. Doesn’t mean you don’t love your kids, doesn’t mean you aren’t a good mom, it doesn’t mean you should let others make you feel bad about it. We are all in this together. Let’s do it together. It is a mess, but it can be a lovely mess.
Join in the conversation
I come from a place of wanting to help people. I don’t like to be preached to or talked down to by ‘experts’, but I do appreciate a helping hand every once in a while. So, mostly what we love to do is share books we love that have helped us through something or made us laugh, toys and activities we have tried that went over big or taught us something cool and anything we think that you will find useful too.
Mostly the purpose of Our Lovely Mess is to share things I have learned through the motherhood journey, but I am also still learning and would love to connect and hear what you have to say on a very complex and sometimes troublesome issue, being a parent.
Thanks for visiting today, I appreciate your time.